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Loving Yourself and Sweet Me
An excerpt from Coming Home: The Return to True Self, ©2010 Martia Nelson
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One variation of self-love is self-compassion. It is your natural state, your birthright.
Self-compassion is a gentle state because it is subtle and quiet,
and it is a warrior's state because it is powerful for making life changes.
To experience self-compassion, take a moment to close your eyes, and with each of your next three breaths, silently say the following words: Sweet Me.
Then do it again, this time looking gently for the tiniest, most microscopic sensations of sweetness emanating through you. Sweet Me. Continue doing it for a few more breaths.
When saying Sweet Me, you are not trying to believe or feel that you are a sweet person -- nothing could be more irrelevant, for that would occur in the personality's (ego's) conditional beliefs or emotions.
Rather, you are opening your awareness to the constant, unconditional sweetness that emanates through you always, but which you usually do not notice. That sweetness is always there because it is the love you are made of.
Self-compassion does not have loud bells and whistles
or strong sensations. It is tiny and subtle.
And it is the most powerful tool for transformation you might ever find. It is so powerful that it can work even when you do not feel it if you just keep opening to it anyway.
Self-compassion occurs whenever you open to the sweetness within you.
When you are worried, close your eyes and let the words Sweet Me fall into you like leaves drifting to the ground. When you are sad, let Sweet Me settle alongside the sadness. When you are hurt, frightened or angry, let Sweet Me emanate through you while you feel that emotion.
Intense emotion unbalances us -- not because there is anything innately unbalancing in the emotion itself but because the emotion occurs in an environment void of self-compassion. Open to the tiniest sweetness within yourself as that emotion occurs, and you will notice a shift toward balance. You will begin to feel safer, calmer, and more alive. Our spirit is made of love and compassion. Sweetness.
When we open to self-compassion by saying Sweet Me,
we open to Spirit, Source, God, true self.
Self-compassion is the compassion of our spirit emanating within us. That compassion is unconditional; we don't have to do anything to deserve it or create it. Our only job is to let ourselves have it.
Without self-compassion we struggle, finding fault and
rejecting ourselves in our efforts to become something better.
That self-rejection hurts us and keeps us from thriving, intensifying our feeling of being separate from the goodness we seek. As we open to self-compassion, we automatically feel more acceptance of ourselves as we are. We can still choose to make changes in our personality or in the circumstances of our lives, but how we do it makes a difference.
With self-rejection we create changes that keep us chasing well-being.
With self-compassion we create changes that replenish our well-being.
An excerpt from Coming Home: The Return to True Self, ©2010 Martia Nelson .
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